Depression and Anxiety
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Guru Tugginmypuddah
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Sarge said:
Good to see you Sarge.
Bullfrog
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I'm doing good right now, and have been having a good month. Overall, this has been my worst year in 20 years, with two very dark periods in particular.
I've seen my physician 4 times in a month for routine stuff, blood work, catch up on vaccines, sprained ankle. Each time I got in within a week. When I felt like I wanted to die? That'll be a 7 month wait...
This system is horribly broken.
I've seen my physician 4 times in a month for routine stuff, blood work, catch up on vaccines, sprained ankle. Each time I got in within a week. When I felt like I wanted to die? That'll be a 7 month wait...
This system is horribly broken.
herman
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Glad you?re doing better, Bullfrog.
If you?re in the Toronto area, there?s a number to call if you have thoughts of dying: 416-408-4357(HELP)
More info: https://www.torontodistresscentre.com/
From what I?ve heard from my friends going through similar things, physicians are generally ill-equipped to handle the non-mechanical health issues they face.
If you?re in the Toronto area, there?s a number to call if you have thoughts of dying: 416-408-4357(HELP)
More info: https://www.torontodistresscentre.com/
From what I?ve heard from my friends going through similar things, physicians are generally ill-equipped to handle the non-mechanical health issues they face.
Bullfrog
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Depends on the physician, I suppose. My new one is younger (40 ish) and was infinitely better than my old one. Unfortunately, there isn't a mental health professional in my new family health network, so I've had to be referred to another facility.
I saw somebody in February and she was amazing, but it was private care and I just can't afford $150/hr.
This is a great resource for anyone experiencing depression, not just men.
https://headsupguys.org/
I saw somebody in February and she was amazing, but it was private care and I just can't afford $150/hr.
This is a great resource for anyone experiencing depression, not just men.
https://headsupguys.org/
L K
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Bullfrog said:
Yeah Psychiatry support is abysmal. I have a few social workers in my office group to provide CBT support but if you want to see a Psychologist or a Psychiatrist I?m lucky if I can get appointments within 3 months if you aren?t actively suicidal. More and more even in the ER setting I?m finding it harder to get psychiatry support. It?s a huge problem. Mental health funding is grossly underfunded
maplesyrup
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Thank you all for the kinds words.
AlmosGirl
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Hugs to everyone dealing with this. It's a struggle and one I don't wish on anybody.
My daughter was diagnosed with generalized anxiety at 15. She got in to see a child psychiatrist so fast due to her age. Even when she turned 18, her Dr kept her on until she started university that fall, just to make sure she was doing well. Unfortunately, after that, she had to just go through her family Dr and get a referral for another psychiatrist now that she's an adult.
Thankfully, her child psychiatrist had set her up so well and with all the support she had through her CYW in high school, now at Uni and the support from myself, hubby and her siblings - she's been able to continue on with no ill effects. It's really scary in the beginning, but it does take time.
My daughter was diagnosed with generalized anxiety at 15. She got in to see a child psychiatrist so fast due to her age. Even when she turned 18, her Dr kept her on until she started university that fall, just to make sure she was doing well. Unfortunately, after that, she had to just go through her family Dr and get a referral for another psychiatrist now that she's an adult.
Thankfully, her child psychiatrist had set her up so well and with all the support she had through her CYW in high school, now at Uni and the support from myself, hubby and her siblings - she's been able to continue on with no ill effects. It's really scary in the beginning, but it does take time.
gilmourthegreat
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This is a great thread. I haven't posted much in recent years but I've been reading regularly since penaltybox.com (used to be Renburger) and the outlet and support I see here reminds of me all the best things about TMLFans (still think about you Sakura, Mr T and cw). Best wishes to all who have recently posted, I have struggled with depression at times and have found that the more you do the right things to control it (seeking and accepting help are high on the list) the easier it tends to get.
I'm far from a psychiatrist, but I personally found that things got easier once I forgave myself for being depressed (my depressed mind considered itself to be weak) in the first place. There is no shame in a broken arm and there is no shame in depression or anxiety. Both can usually be fixed with the help of medicine and/or healthy rehabilitation.
I'm far from a psychiatrist, but I personally found that things got easier once I forgave myself for being depressed (my depressed mind considered itself to be weak) in the first place. There is no shame in a broken arm and there is no shame in depression or anxiety. Both can usually be fixed with the help of medicine and/or healthy rehabilitation.
WhatIfGodWasALeaf
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This was excellent.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9PJfxdZyRQ&t=0s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9PJfxdZyRQ&t=0s
Highlander
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For those of you who suffer from this I do truly commiserate, if you go through the pain of every day Depression long term I can only imagine the strength it takes to keep living day by day.
It is said that all men consider suicide at least 3 times over a lifetime and I think that is about right, as I know I have. For most of you I am a Monkey (the Joker) on this site, as I am by birth on the Chinese calendar.
The truth is I recently went through my worst bout with Depression in my life (with a capital D as it deserves this), and it lasted for 8 months and some days are still bad. I found out about a heart issue, not likely to kill me anytime soon but enough to rock the boat, and then two hurricanes wiped out my territories and a year of hard earned income. I spent a long time in the bottom of the rocking vessel for sure, looking for the light at the end of the tunnel.
For those of your with clinical Depression, I can only imagine what hardships you have.
For me I had to make a living and have been forced to become creative and entrepreneurial to survive, I found a few things to promote and have worked hard to keep providing for my family and to ensure a positive old age.
I am not sure I will ever stop working, but have met with some success in these endeavors, the darkness and fog is lifting.
For those of you that remain trapped in this state, I quote Sir Winston, you can "Never never Surrender" you must never give up.
Life is to precious and happens only once (as we know it). We have so much love to share and we must share it.
Sorry if this sound silly but I have to say this now, and I consider all of you my brothers and sisters on this site. (even Nik)
It is said that all men consider suicide at least 3 times over a lifetime and I think that is about right, as I know I have. For most of you I am a Monkey (the Joker) on this site, as I am by birth on the Chinese calendar.
The truth is I recently went through my worst bout with Depression in my life (with a capital D as it deserves this), and it lasted for 8 months and some days are still bad. I found out about a heart issue, not likely to kill me anytime soon but enough to rock the boat, and then two hurricanes wiped out my territories and a year of hard earned income. I spent a long time in the bottom of the rocking vessel for sure, looking for the light at the end of the tunnel.
For those of your with clinical Depression, I can only imagine what hardships you have.
For me I had to make a living and have been forced to become creative and entrepreneurial to survive, I found a few things to promote and have worked hard to keep providing for my family and to ensure a positive old age.
I am not sure I will ever stop working, but have met with some success in these endeavors, the darkness and fog is lifting.
For those of you that remain trapped in this state, I quote Sir Winston, you can "Never never Surrender" you must never give up.
Life is to precious and happens only once (as we know it). We have so much love to share and we must share it.
Sorry if this sound silly but I have to say this now, and I consider all of you my brothers and sisters on this site. (even Nik)
Bullfrog
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I echo herman's statement. I hope things keep looking up for you.
I've been on quite a journey the last year. I've always had depression (since my mid-teens at least), but it's usually been manageable. Back in May and June I had some really rough times that motivated me to finally get treatment.
There is an open counselling centre, so I went there, but I'm not eligible for free treatment. Since I can't afford private counselling, I searched for other options.
I saw my new physician and explained my troubles. She was really good, but there's no mental health professionals in my health network. So, she referred me to a publicly-funded mental health out-patient centre. From the referral date, it took five months for first contact with this centre, which was for a welcome workshop. This workshop is a group presentation on what mental health is, treatment options, confidentiality, other community resources, etc. After that it took two more months to see a decision-guide. This guide discussions the issues and treatment options, and then recommends a type of treatment. I've now been referred to a psycho-therapist for CBT. Estimated time to first appointment is 4-5 months.
I love living in Canada and I generally have faith in our health care system. But, access to mental health services is absolutely a national embarrassment. There are resources for crises, which is good, but someone in chronic pain (and this is exactly what depression is) has to wait for far too long for treatment.
I've been on quite a journey the last year. I've always had depression (since my mid-teens at least), but it's usually been manageable. Back in May and June I had some really rough times that motivated me to finally get treatment.
There is an open counselling centre, so I went there, but I'm not eligible for free treatment. Since I can't afford private counselling, I searched for other options.
I saw my new physician and explained my troubles. She was really good, but there's no mental health professionals in my health network. So, she referred me to a publicly-funded mental health out-patient centre. From the referral date, it took five months for first contact with this centre, which was for a welcome workshop. This workshop is a group presentation on what mental health is, treatment options, confidentiality, other community resources, etc. After that it took two more months to see a decision-guide. This guide discussions the issues and treatment options, and then recommends a type of treatment. I've now been referred to a psycho-therapist for CBT. Estimated time to first appointment is 4-5 months.
I love living in Canada and I generally have faith in our health care system. But, access to mental health services is absolutely a national embarrassment. There are resources for crises, which is good, but someone in chronic pain (and this is exactly what depression is) has to wait for far too long for treatment.
Highlander
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Thanks for letting me know that Bullfrog. Most of us suffer our bouts of depression silently only sharing with spouse or very close friends, if at all.
I didn't know this about our health care system and it very concerning to find out that you can get a carbuncle on you butt treated way faster than a problem with depression. Things have to change.
I do feel fortunate as my depressions have always been like dark clouds that eventually blow over even though the bad weather can last a long time, it has always dissipated thank God.
For people like Bullfrog, my heart goes out to you all.
Life is so precious to lose any time to this illness is a gigantic waste.
I didn't know this about our health care system and it very concerning to find out that you can get a carbuncle on you butt treated way faster than a problem with depression. Things have to change.
I do feel fortunate as my depressions have always been like dark clouds that eventually blow over even though the bad weather can last a long time, it has always dissipated thank God.
For people like Bullfrog, my heart goes out to you all.
Life is so precious to lose any time to this illness is a gigantic waste.
WhatIfGodWasALeaf
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Glad to hear you?re on the rebound Highlander, all our sparring on here aside I really value the light hearted silliness you bring to the site and wish you all the health and happiness in the world.
Bullfrog, glad to hear you?re improving/seeking out treatment too. I?ve struggled with depression on and off too since I was a teenager, to the point of being suicidal many times. One of the things that gets me out of it is adherence to the things I learned when going through CBT.
Lastly, I?ve accepted that depression will be with me most of my life, it?ll always be in my car so to speak, the key is to never let it drive the car.
Love to you all, cheers.
Bullfrog, glad to hear you?re improving/seeking out treatment too. I?ve struggled with depression on and off too since I was a teenager, to the point of being suicidal many times. One of the things that gets me out of it is adherence to the things I learned when going through CBT.
Lastly, I?ve accepted that depression will be with me most of my life, it?ll always be in my car so to speak, the key is to never let it drive the car.
Love to you all, cheers.
Highlander
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Thanks WIGWL, most appreciated. The funny thing is moving forward with these new projects, some doors seem to be magically opening. It is certainly encouraging when a few months back I didn't see the light. You just can't give up.
herman
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I don't know how available this will be to most people, but the company I work for just signed up with workhealthlife.com, an Employee and Family Assistance Program (EFAP). At no cost to the employee (and pretty nominal for the employer), they and their dependents get app level access to resources and direct communication with medical professionals for just about anything health, stress, anxiety, nutrition, legal advice, addiction -related.